Quotes Blaming Others~
For many years I’ve heard and seen memes reminding parents that it’s not up to schools to keep kids well-behaved; it’s the parents’ job. I would agree with this but for all the negative environmental variables that are unaccounted for—and account for parents who, despite all they read in advance to train for the event, complain their kids didn’t come with a manual.
What I’m saying is that we can’t just put the onus on others; if we want to see a positive change for the world’s children, it’s going to have to be a concerted effort from all adults who have anything to do with kids. Which means just about all of us.
There is an increasing amount of negative variables put upon increasingly younger kids. Those variables are leading kids far from virtue. We have reached not Bethlehem, as the poet W. B. Yeats lamented we would not unless we acquired virtue; rather, we have slouched to Gomorrah.
Simply look at what we try to shelter our kids from and the problem is self-evident. There comes a point that no matter what parents do, kids will be exposed to their worst nightmares through television shows, movies, music, pop culture, fake food, fake news, their friends and even bad adults. Not that all of it is bad, it’s just that so much of it is!
Double-Jeopardy and False Awards
The environment both outside and inside the home has many parents feeling their job has been irretrievably usurped. Obviously, teachers also feel the same about their job, not only because of behavioral problems, but reasons having to do with the ridiculous expectations the school system places on them.
It’s double-jeopardy for teachers who have to teach under the impossible protocol imposed by the system while at the same time address the lack of self-discipline possessed by their charges. And therein lies the source of the problem parents, teachers, and just about everyone has with kids: their lack of self-discipline, in general.
How did today’s kids, in general, come to have a lack of self-discipline that spawned memes blaming others for it? To answer that, we can look back at how my generation, now grandparents—and how today’s parents, grew up. Each generation was more entitled than the last, because each generation was determined to make life easier for their kids.
For example, some of us as parents or teachers even went so far as to give all the kids participation awards—regardless of whether they deserved an award or not. We raised generations of kids who thought they were more wonderful than the previous generation, for doing less. In fact, some of those kids may now even be some of us, as today’s parents.
The Perfect Storm
This created a lot of folks who didn’t learn how to try. It also created a lot of folks who didn’t learn how to cope with their shortcomings or their emotions. As they enter the world of so-called adulthood where new expectations are put upon them, they too often find themselves falling short!
I believe not having great coping skills has caused all of us a lot of frustration. Along with an excessive availability of opioid drugs people use to check out from emotional pain as well as physical pain, it may have contributed to the perfect storm for the heroin epidemic young adults, teens, and even youth face today.
So that brings us to the perennial question: How can parents safeguard against or reverse what we and our society has put into process? What can we, as parents, grandparents, and teachers teach kids that will inspire them towards the virtue of self-discipline, which will lead to good life outcomes? You can read about that HERE, and I will go into more detail in my next blog. Till then,
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